Women are sensitive creatures, even if they are strong and independent. Sometimes they simply experience unnecessary guilt for everything they say, do, and even feel. It usually happens due to external pressures: “you need children”, “your hobby is ridiculous”, “you dress like a man” and a thousand other things. However, you shouldn’t apologize for that.
We made a list of 7 things no woman should feel guilty about. It’s time to change your attitude towards yourself for the better!
For Saying “No”
Women often feel guilty for saying “no.” It is generally easier to say “yes” no matter what the result is. This may surprise you, but you shouldn’t apologize for it. Yes, I know you feel terrible for refusing to help a friend or for telling a guy that you don’t want to go out with him.
But think of yourself first; There is probably a reason why you should decline it. No matter how small it is, if you don’t feel like saying “yes,” no one has the right to force it.
For Liking “Manly” Or “Girly” Things
“Honey, it’s time to find a more suitable hobby, you are a lady!” How many times have you heard something like this? Who the hell told you that you can’t be a car mechanic if you’re a woman?
Remember that it is your life and you decide what you want. There is no reason why you shouldn’t like bicycles instead of knitting; or knitting instead of bicycles. Hey, after all, we live in the 21st century!
For Not Wearing Makeup
Raise your hand if you ever feel like you should put on makeup, because, well, you’re a woman. Even if you don’t like it, sometimes you feel that pressure. I will tell you something important. If you don’t like makeup, don’t apply it. If you like a light touch of face powder instead of a base coat, the choice is yours.
After all, if you have amazing skin without all those contours, travel, and hundreds of other ways to draw a new face, you have every reason to be proud of it.
For Food Choices
Life is tough when you even have to defend your food choices, especially among friends or family. “Why don’t you drink? Come on, just a glass!” or “What do you mean, don’t eat meat ?!” Even something as small as eating a salad when everyone chooses a hamburger (or vice versa) can create persuasion and pressure.
No one should feel guilty about their food choices. If you don’t like fish, it’s your business. Go after something else and don’t even think about making excuses.
For Having Fun
When was the last time you felt like dancing, singing, or jumping in the street, but thought, “What would people think?”
Hey girl, who cares? You can do whatever you want unless you hurt someone. People just smile or raise their eyebrows as they pass … or don’t even notice, anyway, who cares? You will probably never find them again. Why should you refuse these seconds of pure joy?
For Being A Little Selfish
Selfishness is not that bad, especially if it comes in small portions. It’s okay to want some time for yourself, not for your work, friends, family, and other obligations. It’s okay if you want to relax on your own (or not alone) after a long day and put it off for later.
You don’t have to apologize if you want the last piece of cake or that thing in the store, and you don’t even have to explain why you need it. Just do it. It is your joy.
For Having Emotions
Human beings have emotions; Everybody knows. Sometimes you need to cry or laugh … just because. You may want to be alone and not talk to anyone, or have the desire to hug your best friend right now.
You may be angry, happy, surprised, disappointed, sad, and even indifferent, and you shouldn’t apologize just because you didn’t respond to someone with a smile.
Have you ever felt guilty about at least one of the things on this list? Have you managed to get rid of this habit? Share your stories in the comments below!
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