Some people, consciously or unconsciously, tend to have attitudes that can be harmful to other people. This can range from derogatory gestures and constant criticism to tongue-in-cheek comments, curses, and disapproval.
These are all forms of behavior that don’t really have a positive impact on our well-being. However, while we can’t stop other people from doing this, the way we react when these things happen can make a difference.
We want to share with you some tips on how to get around this type of attitude without creating conflict.
Avoid Turning To Anger
For some people, the first reaction after facing a belittling attitude may be to be angry, but it also says a lot about us. In fact, it may be the most common reaction, because we perceive it as a threatening attitude.
But as you may suspect, it is also exactly what we shouldn’t do. On the one hand, anger leaves us in a vulnerable state. That is because we are showing that the other person has managed to belittle us.
And second, anger also leads to more conflict. When we act out in anger, we are not thinking clearly and we may end up becoming the same thing that made us feel bad in the first place.
Keep Your Distance From The Situation
Sometimes people are not really aware of their own behavior, so they can make negative comments that can change the positive attitudes of other people without even realizing that they are doing it.
In fact, they may simply be projecting their own fears and prejudices onto us. While it is not recommended to simply allow this to happen, doing something about it may be easier said than done.
This is because perhaps the way to go in such a situation is to simply accept that what that person says speaks to the situation they are facing, but not necessarily yours.
By doing so, you will be able to empathize with the other person and will not allow their comments to hurt you.
Take Your Time To Respond
When it comes to reacting, time is precious. When you feel like someone else’s comment or action has offended you, the best thing to do is take a deep breath and allow time to pass before reacting.
This will give you more perspective on what just happened and can help you make better decisions.
Instead of viscerally backing down, you can just take the right path and give a peaceful response to that negative comment.
Accept Or Reject An Insult, But Always In A Friendly Way
Some people tend to be very critical, use offensive nicknames, or point to physical or personal characteristics of other people in an attempt to elicit some kind of reaction or level of discomfort.
However, it is up to us to decide how we interpret these comments and react to them. To avoid any conflict and neutralize this type of aggression, you can use the following 2 options.
Accept the comment: let the person in question know calmly that what he or she is saying true and that you agree with it.
Deny the comment: Still, with a positive, kind but assertive approach, let the other person know that what they are saying is wrong, but it does not bother you.
Ask For An Explanation
Sometimes the insults are not so clear and recognizable, and can even be disguised as praise, but that does not mean that we cannot stop them, even in such a situation.
All you need to do is ask for an explanation of why the person said what they said or what they meant by it.
At best, it wasn’t an insult and it was all just a misunderstanding, but if it was an insult, you can at least open up and have a friendly conversation instead of just resenting yourself.
Keep A Safe Distance From Toxic People
Sometimes you will just find people who are just looking for conflict. Don’t judge them too harshly; After all, sometimes we are the ones who cannot control our emotions and we end up doing something great out of nothing.
In both cases, it is best to distance yourself from these people in a healthy way.
We can avoid contact with them for a short period of time, or if we have to find them, do so only in certain circumstances so as not to provoke a major confrontation.
These precautions can help us maintain our mental health and well-being.
What is your strategy in finding a person who engages in this behavior? How can you keep the peace?