One thing most narcissists have in common is that they believe they are better than everyone else. That’s why their two strategies, which often merge, constantly push each other or put everyone else down. They often come off as super charming in an effort to be nice to others but are very close to starting to bad mouth theirs. And when it comes to breakups, they can be really nasty and catty.
A breakup is never a pleasant thing, and we want you to be prepared in case you break up with a narcissist.
They will try to make you stay by making you feel guilty.
Once all the blame has started, a narcissist’s effort is simply to make you feel guilty about your decision to break up with them. They will tell you that you inflicted so much pain on them and that you did not consider their feelings and all the good things they did for you.
There are so many insults that you start to feel like the scum of the earth. According to them, you are very wrong about them and you should reconsider your position.
And on many occasions, people decide to give the relationship another chance. It is not always because he still loves his partner, but because he wants to show him that he is not so bad.
But they can continue that narrative even in the relationship and keep it mired in guilt until they tire and break up.
They will try to throw the blame on you.
When 2 people get separated, it’s usually because they both took a wrong turn. However, a narcissist will never accept any blame and will throw everything on the partner who chose to break up with them.
They may tell you that you didn’t appreciate all the wonderful things they did for you. Suddenly you will become an enemy to them that they won’t even talk to.
They will not hesitate to insult you in the most disgusting way in an effort to hurt you as much as you hurt them. Even if you try to apologize and help them get over it, they will refuse to listen to you.
They might even convince you that it was all your fault and that you should give the relationship a second chance. But this effort is likely to be short-lived, as all its negative aspects will begin to resurface.
They will make a promise that they will change.
When their manipulative methods fail to win you back, a narcissist will appear as if they understand their mistakes. They will look like a changed person in front of you and will promise you that they will change their way of being.
They say they will get the help they need and will do whatever you tell them to do to make you happy. And sometimes the other person will believe them and decide to get them back.
However, it will not be long before the narcissist returns to acting as before. Once they get comfortable that you trust them again, they will try to control you and be insensitive.
Now that they know your plan worked the first time, they will repeat it the next time you want to break up with them again.
They will demand your attention in any way they can.
They still want to be in the center of your attention so much that they will accidentally bump into you. They can also stop by your house or the bar where you usually go with your friends after work. They may even pretend they’re sick or that something terrible has happened to them just so you’ll be alert.
Other worrisome behaviors include drunken phone calls in the middle of the night or even breaking into your house to get your stuff. Their ego is so big that they need to feel seen, heard, and recognized by their former partner.
They will shame you in public and create malicious gossip.
Once again, their ego is talking a lot, and they won’t stop making fun of you in front of their loved ones and complete strangers. They may start embarrassing you in front of a family or friends gathering to break you down emotionally.
Your friends are presented with a completely different story of what happened, where they are the victims and you are the perpetrator.
They don’t care how much they’re hurting you as long as they see you suffer. Not only that, but they can create false stories and narratives to present you as the big bad. Social media can be your vehicle as they can post anything harmful that they want to damage your reputation.
Have you ever been with a narcissist? What was your experience with them during a relationship and how did they deal with their breakup?
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