Bringing anger to bed is one of the most painful things you can do. When we are awake, we have the opportunity to process negative emotions and let them go.
But as we hit the hay, the feeling of discomfort can increase and even a small inconvenience can turn into a true Shakespearean drama.
We researched how bedtime anger affects our sleep and hopes to shed some light on this.
Anger Spoils Your Sleep
Stress and heavy feelings are known to trigger a fight-or-flight reaction that puts you physically alert. In these circumstances, falling asleep and staying asleep becomes much more difficult.
In addition, it has also been proven that interrupting sleep can lead to more anger. You will probably wake up exhausted rather than refreshed.
In this case, anger leads to poor sleep and poor sleep leads to more anger, forming a cursed cycle that no one wants to find themselves in.
Anger Is Dangerous For Your Health
Scientists have already determined that the quality of sleep influences a person’s overall health. Normally, sleep acts as a “night therapy”, stabilizing our emotions so that we can better deal with our feelings the next day.
But anger and intense stress can get in the way of this process. Negative emotions release stress hormones, making you more irritable, and many troubling symptoms can appear.
In the long term, it can cause insomnia, restless sleep, and nightmares or, in the worst case, mental health problems like depression.
It’s Harder To Forget Bad Feelings After You Sleep
Researchers say that we are less able to suppress a negative experience after sleeping than before. Sleep amplifies emotions, thoughts, and problems.
When we sleep, our brain processes new information and stores it in our short-term and long-term memory. During sleep, anger enters our long-term memory and can have a long-lasting effect.
A bad experience is greatly reduced if we stay awake after it, while sleep “protects” the negative emotional reaction. When bad feelings solidify in your memory, it will be much more difficult to suppress them in the future.
Anger Kills Sincerity
Late at night is known to be a peak time for intimacy. Going to bed crazy certainly spoils the mood, but it also sets a toxic pattern.
In the end, you begin to associate bedtime with anger, rather than comfort and connection with your partner.
And if this is repeated regularly, it can turn sour and eventually destroy the relationship.
It Sends A Negative Message To Your Partner
If in the middle of an argument, you decide to simply roll over and tighten the blanket, you are sending a message that you value “winning” in a conflict more than maintaining a healthy relationship with the person you are arguing with.
You may not be communicating this on purpose, but it is often what is happening. The way you handle disagreements can make or break your relationships.
How do you normally feel in the morning if you go to sleep with a heavy heart?
Leave a Reply