It is very easy to hurt a person with a word or an action during a fight. The resentment can last much longer after the fight ends, ruining the relationship.
Crfat Sides chose 7 things you should never do while fighting with your loved ones.
What To Avoid Fighting In A Relationship
1. Do Not Include Other Family Members In Your Fights
Your fight only concerns you and no one else. By luring your parents into conflict, you risk turning regular fallout into a real family mess. Even if harmony returns to your relationship, the other family members will probably remember everything and use it against you or your partner when there is an opportunity.
2. Avoid Violence
While fighting, people tend to show the worst sides of their character. Some, trying to prove that they are right, resort to violence. Do not allow yourself or your partner to use violence, no matter how angry you might be with each other. The physical pain caused by a loved one will kill all the feelings that once held you.
3. Don’t Mix It All Up
If the main cause of the fight is a bunch of dirty dishes, then let it stay that way. Don’t remind your partner of all their past mistakes – this is one way to turn a minor domestic problem into a major ugly conflict. Also, your partner may have a logical question: Do I need to continue a relationship where there are so many demands?
4. Never Talk About A Divorce
When you say “Let’s get divorced” during a fight, it can become the greatest insult of all time. These words can really hurt your partner’s feelings. And the more you say them, the faster the divorce will occur. If you love yourself, never talk about separation.
5. Never Leave The House In The Middle Of A Fight
Simply leaving home during a fight will only show how uncomfortable you are under the same roof as your partner. Slamming the doors, run into the dark, leave the conflict unresolved, all of which will make your partner think twice about your level of maturity. It is much better to wait until you calm down and then discuss everything like adults.
6. Do Not Go To Bed Separately
By sleeping separately, you show that you are not ready to make up. The daily routine, like going to sleep together, will ease the atmosphere and resolve the conflict quickly. You may end up lying on your back at first, but in the morning you will wake up in each other’s arms without the slightest hint of the fight the night before.
7. Never Fight In Public
If you allow yourself and your partner to fight in a public place, you probably won’t even respect each other. Don’t take skeletons out of your closet in public. It is much better to talk about your problems at home.
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